Alice Lemee

Your Emotions Are Visitors, Just Passing Through. | Internetly Vol. 53

published3 months ago
3 min read

Hi, I’m Alice (ah-leece). This is a Tuesday (sometimes Wednesday) weekly newsletter to help you take advantage of the internet, one idea at a time. Don’t hesitate to reach out if something piques your interest.

Hi there,

I’m back in NYC after a two-month long trek around Colombia! 🇨🇴

I returned last weekend, but immediately contracted a sordid case of food poisoning. It happened to be sprinkled onto a bone-biting cold, dampening my creative capabilities – hence my absence in your inbox. 🥲

During the last few weeks in Colombia, shit got hard. I missed my boyfriend. The majority of my connections felt cursory. I longed for the city. An unwelcome epiphany materialized:

"Maybe, I’m not happy here. But, when I'm living in New York, I long to leave. Why am I always wishing I was happy somewhere else?”

And then in some moronic cosmic fate, I stumbled across a TikTok that revealed a chink in this mental armor. I can’t find it, but here’s a recap:

“My life changed when I stopped chasing happiness. It’s a temporary feeling. Understanding this meant I could be okay when I wasn’t happy – because I knew like all emotions, it ebbs and flows.”

Upon hearing this, my brain dropped the mental baggage. I had been released from the indefatigable expectation to be perpetually happy, wherever I was.

Specifically, it revealed two new ways to think about our emotions.

  1. You are not your emotions.
  2. They are temporary.

So, instead of: “I’m miserable,” it becomes “I’m feeling miserable, for now.”

Or, “I’m ashamed” transforms into “I’m feeling ashamed, for now.”

Temporary and objective. That’s the way we can go about your feelings for a more peaceful existence. So with that, my question for you is:

“How do you talk about your emotions, and can you fix the language surrounding them?”

Pleasure Paradox

🖼 On Becoming a Prolific Creator

This Week: Don’t Take Your Talent For Granted

As creatives, charging money for our work can feel…iffy.

Being paid to be creative sounds inconceivable – it’s too good to be true. Not only do we enjoy what we do, but it comes naturally to us. It’s easy. Asking for cold, hard cash in exchange for something seamless can feel slimy.

But, are your creative endeavors actually “easy,” or are you taking your talent for granted?

There’s three factors conspiring against you when you try to price yourself or share your knowledge:

  1. You assume your work is the “default.” In reality, it is foreign to others and they can't mimic you.
  2. You forget the grueling learning curve of when you first learned the skill.
  3. Just because something is “easy,” doesn’t mean it loses its monetary value.

The next time you have an urge to dismiss your creative qualifications, recognize you’re discrediting yourself. You’re sitting on a gold mine of innate knowledge. If you get out of your own way, others would see it, too.

Beautiful view from one of the hostels in Minca, Colombia

🥒 Content Diet

😶‍🌫️ Blank Faces by Scott Aaronson – This article is for you if you’re dealing with the DMV or IRS. It perfectly encapsulates the myopic presence of bureaucrats who lead opaque, faceless institutions. This piece scratches your brain in the best way.

💰 I Mistakenly Thought I Was Making $9K a Month by Pimethy – Sometimes, freelancing feels like you’re on top of the world. Then just as quickly, it bucks you off. This article by Pimethy offers an honest look into a common situation – when the client never pays.

✍🏼 Freelancing Journey

This Week: Be Unfaithful Until Someone Puts a Ring On It

As a freelancer, you should be unfaithful.

No, I’m not saying you should go out and canoodle with someone who isn’t your partner (unless being poly is your thing, then more power to ya).

I’m talking about communicating with clients when it comes to working together. Specifically, you’re entertaining every lead — and continuing to advertise yourself – until a contract is signed and the deposit is paid.

Every freelancer eventually comes to a stage where they’re chatting to 1-3 clients who they’re convinced they’re going to work with. They’ve got the budget, the call went great, and the team added them on LinkedIn.

So, the freelancer stops advertising themselves. They reply with, “Sorry, I’m taken!” when a new lead slides into their inbox. And then, this happens:

This is why freelancers must always be flirting with new opportunities until they seal the deal. Because you never want to find yourself in a situation where your leads dry up.

I’m currently “flirting” with 5-6 different clients who would like to work together within the same time frame. Am I saying I’m too busy? Not advertising myself any longer? Absolutely not, because none of them have signed the proposal and paid the deposit.

And until then, this girl is exploring her options.

Leslie Poole - Berries at Sink Edge, 2006

That's it this week, folks.

I missed writing this newsletter for you all. I hope it was useful, in some weird or unexpected way.

Hope you have a beautiful week, wherever you are.

Stay creative,

Alice 💌